Different person. Same patterns. The problem isn't dating.
You can change the person, the app, or even the city. But if the pattern stays the same, the outcome will too.
I'm Patty Limatola-Tanenbaum.
I work with single people and help them to recognize the patterns influencing who they choose, what they tolerate, and why the same relationship dynamics keep repeating. Because changing the person does not change the outcome if the pattern stays the same.
"Your relationship coaching is thoughtful, relatable and easy to connect with. I appreciate that you always encourage healthy communication and mutual respect."
Start where you are
Dating Groups
This is for you if you're ready to stop doing this alone. Real conversations, honest support, a community learning to date better together.
Find My GroupDating Profile Makeover
This is for you if your profile doesn't feel like you yet, and you know it's costing you the right matches.
Update My ProfilePrivate Dating Support
This is for you if you want one-on-one guidance to understand your patterns and build real boundaries.
Work With MeNo guessing about what a session feels like
How it works
Let’s get “unstuck in love.” Real conversations, honest support, and practical guidance in a group setting designed to help you move forward in love, dating, life and relationships.
Who it's for
Anyone who is ready to get honest about their patterns and make different choices in dating.
What it costs
Pricing varies based on the typoe of supprt that works for you. We offer both private and group programs.
If your relationships keep ending the same way, stop asking why you keep meeting the wrong person. Start asking why the wrong person keeps feeling right.
You don't attract what you want. You choose what's familiar.
Most people go into a first date running an interview. Job, exes, five-year plan, quietly checking boxes against a list they never actually wrote down.
That is not connection. That is auditioning.
This is not about meeting more people. It is about finally getting what you actually want because you are showing up differently now.
That's normal. Here's the truth.
"I'm not ready to talk about this yet."
You don't need to have it figured out. You just need to be willing to start.
"What if it doesn't work for me?"
This isn't about more dating. It's about understanding what keeps repeating so the next choice is different.
"I don't know anyone else in this group."
Neither did anyone else, when they started. That's exactly the point.
"The pattern doesn't change because you recognize it. It changes when you stop choosing it"
A little something for every part of dating and life
From what to wear, what to ask, what to notice, and what to stop overthinking, practical tools for dating and everything in between.
You're welcome here, and I'd love to help.
Whether you're ready to join a group today or just needed to know this exists, I'm glad you found your way here.
